Divorce on Children: Signs of Struggle
Let’s face it, most children would not choose to have their parents divorced. Studies show that even when many children are adults, they still regret their parents’ divorce and rate it as one of the most traumatic things that have happened in their lives. Yet, for close to half of all marriages with children under 18, a divorce occurs. That doesn’t mean that your children have to suffer in the long run.
Becoming educated about the potential pitfalls is the first step in making sure that your kids survive and even thrive after a divorce.
NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, has been serving southern Arizona and the Tucson community since 1983. They provide mental health education and support to help minimize the effect of mental health problems in adults and children.
A short article by Michelle Manno from the organization provides an abundance of information to help parents who want to help their children.
Did you know that school personnel may show bias toward your child because of the divorce? That children blame themselves for the divorce because they lose control and self-blame is an easy solution? That many kids are afraid their parents will stop loving them? That kids start to feel guilty when they want to be with one parent or the other for a special event or weekend?
“Sometimes, it can be difficult to assess whether a divorce is negatively impacting a child or whether problem behaviors are just an expected part of the growing process” -Michelle Manno.
Click here to read her article addressing the signs of struggle exhibited by children that will help you identify the need for additional support: Preventing Mental Health Effects of Divorce on Children.
Arming yourself with this knowledge will help you be attentive and supportive of your child(ren) during a challenging time in your lives. Additionally, bee aware that staying in an unhealthy or abusive marriage can also have a lasting negative impact on the mental health of children. That’s why it is important to speak with an experienced family law attorney about your options and the best approach to your specific situation. Complete our contact form below to receive your free 30-minute consultation to discuss any questions or concerns you may have.